Once upon a time, shortly after I’d become the primary V:tM storyteller for my local larp, a friend of mine asked me, “What would you do if you could get away with being unfair to someone?”

My response came easily, “That’s not a hypothetical question,” I said, “I could get away with being unfair to someone. I could get away with it right now. In fact, one of my more serious concerns as a storyteller is that I’ll accidentally be unfair and people will just let me get away with it instead of pointing the problem out so I can try to fix it.”

There’s a BNS mechanics discussion that I love above all others. It’s the one that goes “That is a core problem, isn’t it? Social solutions not sticking.” and “Social solutions aren’t allowed to stick.” What does ‘stick’ mean here? For that matter, what does “allowed” mean here? The general hypothesis is this: there are mechanical reasons social conflicts escalate to killboxes. There’s plenty to say about human reasons for that escalation, and human costs too, but the mechanics– I want to talk about those. Changing people is hard. Changing mechanics? Easy. What if we could avoid some of that human cost paid in OOC misery with just a bit more awareness of where things get sticky?